A couple of years ago my friend asked me to talk to some people about "what is love." At the time I really felt like I had no idea. I hadn't really been in love with anyone up until that point in my life. I had fallen into deep likeness and been hurt before...but those were easily forgotten within a couple of weeks or days and I moved on. I knew what fatherly, motherly and family love was...I knew the love that I had for all those children in Africa, I knew the strong love that I have for my nephews Johnny and Hudson...but not true love.
Since Finn was born, each night I've been deep in thought before I fall asleep on the concept of what love really is. Like the list of thoughts on love that I previously gathered some years ago I have been compiling a list of my own over the past few weeks. I first developed a true love with Jared...and now I am not the recipient of motherly love but the giver...I guess the recipient also, as Finn burrows his nose into my shoulder when he's tired and those times when he cries and only calms down on my shoulder...I love that feeling.
TWO GREAT LOVES OF MY LIFE - Jared and Phineas
Since Finn was born, each night I've been deep in thought before I fall asleep on the concept of what love really is. Like the list of thoughts on love that I previously gathered some years ago I have been compiling a list of my own over the past few weeks. I first developed a true love with Jared...and now I am not the recipient of motherly love but the giver...I guess the recipient also, as Finn burrows his nose into my shoulder when he's tired and those times when he cries and only calms down on my shoulder...I love that feeling.
TWO GREAT LOVES OF MY LIFE - Jared and Phineas
Love is:
-Your husband noticing you are cold in the early morning and covering you up with an extra blanket.
-Not eating the entire banana but leaving 1/2 of it for your spouse.
-Even though you're so sleep deprived, still actually looking forward to those midnight feedings because you miss your son.
-Letting that delicious sandwich that you just made sit on the counter so you can feed your baby first.
-Not wanting to say goodnight to your spouse because you have to retreat into separate dream worlds.
-Even though you hate making cookies, you still do because you know someone loves them:)
-When you see someone else kissing, like in a movie...you instantly wish your spouse would come home from work and kiss you!
-Keeping the kitchen well stocked with oatmeal for the oatmeal lover.
-Moving three times in a year so that your wife and child will have a pleasant place to live in and spend her days.
-Running out late at night to get whatever your pregnant wife is craving at that very moment.
-Getting up with the baby and holding him in your arms so that he'll sleep longer...thus your wife may also.
-Telling your wife she looks beautiful, even though you don't like her outfit...and might be embarrassed by the combination of colors and articles of clothing.
-Always letting your love have a bite of whatever you're eating...even when you don't want to share.
-Even though you're so sleep deprived, still actually looking forward to those midnight feedings because you miss your son.
-Letting that delicious sandwich that you just made sit on the counter so you can feed your baby first.
-Not wanting to say goodnight to your spouse because you have to retreat into separate dream worlds.
-Even though you hate making cookies, you still do because you know someone loves them:)
-When you see someone else kissing, like in a movie...you instantly wish your spouse would come home from work and kiss you!
-Keeping the kitchen well stocked with oatmeal for the oatmeal lover.
-Moving three times in a year so that your wife and child will have a pleasant place to live in and spend her days.
-Running out late at night to get whatever your pregnant wife is craving at that very moment.
-Getting up with the baby and holding him in your arms so that he'll sleep longer...thus your wife may also.
-Telling your wife she looks beautiful, even though you don't like her outfit...and might be embarrassed by the combination of colors and articles of clothing.
-Always letting your love have a bite of whatever you're eating...even when you don't want to share.
This is just the tip of the iceberg...the list goes on.
Although, I still can't believe the amount of love I have for little Mr. Finn.
He surprises me everyday! Like growing out of an outfit in just 3 days.
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I like your list.
It is crazy how much Finn looks like the two of you. It makes me wonder what my little guys is going to look like. I can't imagine a mini boy me.
He's adorable!
I love that list! Those are all great reasons to be in love with someone.
i wondered if i'd feel that same love for my 2nd child as i did with my 1st. its amazing our capacity to love so deeply with each child. and to have your spouse take care of you is also an amazing love experience. i am smiling at you discovering this with your 2 boys.
love that list. and you must have a greater love than I do, cause I still don't like to share my food:) and how does Finn make these hilarious faces?
Sniff sniff... totally wiping a little tear away... That is so how it is!
I love that little video of Finn and you talking. It reminds me so much of how it was with my little guy when it was just he and I five years ago and minus 2 sisters. This time is so special! Enjoy it, it really does go so fast!
Oh Al, I've got tears in my eyes. So beautiful. Though I think you've always known what love really is. Your emotions have always been so big, you have always felt more deeply than anyone I know. Your two boys are fantastic. That picture of Finn at the end brings the biggest smile to my face!
what a cutie pie! yes, i'm sure Natalie could be interested in a younger man :)
What a darling little one! We are excited to meet Finn!
Isn't it nice to reflect on how we show love, and how we are showered with love by others.
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